EPISODE 15: ELLEN DREWS ON BETRAYAL TRAUMA HEALING

In this episode, Ellen Drews joins the show to discuss what betrayal trauma looks like and different ways of healing:  what the betrayed spouse can do to heal, what the addict, betraying spouse, can do to heal and how couples can heal together.  Don't miss it and please share with someone you think would benefit from hearing this!

For a free, complimentary consultation, reach out to Ellen at:
https://ellendrews.com or email her at:  ellen@ellendrews.com

FANOS check-in example:
https://hopehousehealing.com/learn/fanos

See below for the SAFER check-in.
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SAFER check-in [by Dr. Jake Porter, Daring Ventures]
Addict goes through:
S - sobriety, "my sobriety date is..."
A - accountability, "I apologize for when I did..."
F - feelings, "this week, the emotions I felt most were..."
E - express, "I've been learning ..... about myself"
R - recovery, "For my recovery, I have a plan to do ...."

Betrayed Partner goes through:
S - safety, "my safety level today is (# 1-10)"
A - acknowledge, 
F - feelings, "this week, the emotions I felt most were..."
E - express, "I had the hardest time this week when..."
R - requests, "You can help me feel safer by..."

Check-In instructions:   Modified SAFER check-in From Jake Porter and Daring Ventures 2016                                

1. Set a designated daily time and place for the check in. Try to choose a time when you will be uninterrupted and not too tired, be consistent.

2. It is ALWAYS the recovering addict’s responsibility to initiate this check-in. Plan ahead by giving yourself a few minutes to think about what you will share, as preparation can greatly enhance the experience by making it more thoughtful and meaningful.

3. Decide whether the addict or partner will share first. The first person will share his or her complete check in. Then the second person will share his or her complete check-in.

4. While each shares his or her check in, the other should try to use talking and listening boundaries if they respond. 

5. Remember this process involves two traumatized (newly healing) people being vulnerable. Be gentle with yourselves and take a break before you come back to discuss any triggering content in greater detail.

SAFER check-in From Jake Porter NCC,CSAT,CMAT,CPC and Daring Ventures 2016  

EPISODE 12:  GUILT vs. SHAME 

In this episode, Steve discusses the difference between guilt and shame -- they are not the same.  Learn how to use guilt to improve and leave shame behind.

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EPISODE 9: DAN DONALDSON ON MEN'S GROUPS

In this episode, Steve has Dan Donaldson on the show.  Dan is the VP of Catholic Men's Leadership Alliance where he leads men by doing three things: (1) putting on inspiring events, (2) providing engaging resources and (3) providing leadership coaching through conferences and men's groups.

The approach at CMLA: 
Strengthen the man, strengthen the family. 
Strengthen the family, strengthen the Church.
Strengthen the Church, transform the culture.

Join their next free quarterly Heroic Men Summit at: https://heroicmen.com

Check out Dan's ministry at:  https://www.catholicmenleaders.org
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EPISODE 6: ALCOHOL ADDICTION AND RECOVERY WITH CHRISTIE WALKER

In this episode, I interview Christie Walker about her addiction to alcohol, her recovery and her reversion back to the Catholic Faith.

Christie shares her story of addiction and her experiences with treatment and AA meetings.  We discuss what Christie appreciates about recovery and how she sees God's hand and Mary's intercession in her life.     

Christie helps other Catholics in recovery and offers sobriety coaching to those looking to reduce or eliminate drinking from their lives for ANY reason.CC

Helpful links:

Connect with Christie on Instagram: @catholicrecoverycoach

Visit her website: www.catholicrecoverycoach.comC

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EPISODE 14: NEW YEAR, SAME RESOLUTION?

In this episode, Steve covers whether or not we should make New Year's Resolutions and if so, a bunch of thought joggers for what you can start or boost to your personal recovery journey.  He also goes over how to make resolutions last throughout the year.

This is a link to the workbook referenced to help your wife heal after betrayal:
https://www.amazon.com/Help-Her-Heal-Workbook-Partners/dp/1733922202

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EPISODE 8: RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR - DR. CHRISTINE BACON

In this episode Steve talks with Dr. Christine Bacon, host of the popular show, Breakfast with Bacon. They cover her Standers group and its success, her S.A.C.R.E.D. formula for Super Marriages, saving 1 million marriages, The Sound of Freedom movie, Kevin Wells and the Sisters of Mary as well as hope for the times we're living in.

Dr. Christine Bacon is a featured author, radio show host, couple's mentor, and professor who specializes in understanding communication and utilizing knowledge to improve personal relationships and growth.

Buy her latest book "The Super Couple: A Formula for Extreme Happiness in Marriage"

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BreakfastWithBacon
Twitter: @BreakfastwBacon
Instagram: @BreakfastwithBacon
 Sign up for her newsletter and never skip a beat: https://www.drchristinebacon.com/what...

Register for the Disrupting the Culture with Truth 2023 conference at www.TruthSpeakers.org

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EPISODE 5: UNITY IN RECOVERY- HOW SPOUSES CAN HEAL TOGETHER WITH CRISTIN O'CONNOR

In this episode, my beautiful wife, Cristin and I share some ways we worked together to heal from pornography addiction.

We discuss how easy it is to access pornography in today’s culture, how easy it is to be addicted, and to conceal this addiction. We talk through how to approach a spouse if you suspect they are viewing, how to respond if a spouse shares their struggles, some ways Recovery has helped our marriage, and 3 ways that couples can work together to heal from this addiction.

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Episode 13: Dr. Eddie Capparucci on How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction

Dr. Eddie Capparucci joins the show to discuss the Inner Child and how it impacts sexual addiction.  He recently revised his book, Going Deeper, and added 3 new kids to the other 9 children discussed.  He goes through core emotional triggers and his six-step healing model. 

His website:  https://innerchild-sexaddiction.com/

His email address:  edcappa@gmail.com

His new book:  https://www.amazon.com/Going-Deeper-Impacts-Sexual-Addiction-ebook/dp/B0CN5VSYXY/ref=sr_1_4?crid=28XTZJDULPF9J&keywords=going+deeper+eddie+capparucci&qid=1701350127&sprefix=going+deep%2Caps%2C123&sr=8-4

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Episode 10: 7 TECH TOOLS to QUIT PORN & 9 BIBLE VERSES on ACCOUNTABILITY

In this episode, Steve covers 7 tech tools to quit porn and 9 Bible verses on accountability. 

For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.com
PROMO CODE: CFP

Canopy: https://canopy.us

Accountable2You:  https://accountable2you.com

Lead Me Not:  https://www.leadmenot.org/

Wisephone:  https://techless.com

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Episode 7: White-Knuckling It and Why It Fails

In this episode Steve talks about white-knuckling sobriety.  He covers what it is, why it fails and what to do instead.  St. Francis de Sales explains that the Evil One will tempt us to be self-reliant when we only need to place our complete reliance on God.

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EPISODE 4: HOW TO HEAL FROM PORNOGRAPHY ADDICTION IN MARRIAGE

In this episode, you will hear my wife, Cristin and I share our story in an interview with Lisa Canning on her podcast a few weeks ago.

We discussed what it was like when we were dating, how the disclosure went when pornography was brought to the surface, how we both dealt with that, what the recovery looked like, and what it looks like now.   

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EPISODE 3: HOW TO TELL YOUR WIFE ABOUT YOUR PORN ADDICTION

In this episode, I share how I shared my porn addiction with my wife Cristin, what not to do when you're disclosing your addiction, and why a therapist trained in therapeutic disclosure is so helpful to your marriage.

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EPISODE 2: I DID ALL THE "CATHOLIC THINGS" TO FIX MY ADDICTION AND IT DIDN'T WORK... NOW WHAT

I watched countless talks to help me recover from my porn addiction... and every time, it wouldn't stick. I would relapse, I would fail, I would have to go to confession...

...only to act out again.

I remember thinking to myself... but I am doing all the good "Catholic things" you're supposed to do to recover... what is wrong with me?

And I realized later one massive thing was missing...

In this episode I dive into the missing element, and why it matters.

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EPISODE 1: MY PORN RECOVERY STORY

I'm Steve O'Connor, and for over 15 years I was addicted to pornography.  In this episode, I share my story of recovery and hope. 

I'm committed to helping other newly married Catholic men break free from their porn addiction. Join me in the first cohort of my new group coaching experience, Finally Free, beginning April 18, 2023.

Reserve your spot at www.catholicsfightporn.com/need-help

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Take my free quiz, "Are you addicted?"